India stories

Josh and I often laugh about the difference between our boys and our girl. Even at 4, I can already see that she will be a warrior with a pen as she doggedly tries to copy letters and numbers, spell her name, and find familiar letters in a sea of words in a book, whereas our boys at that age just used those pens and pencils as literal weapons. Bang bang went the fake gun . . . let me stab you with this sharp pencil tip . . . who has time to write when there are legos to play with!?

At 13, Carter still hasn’t progressed much past that point writing-wise so I’m afraid I’m not going to get much out of him about his time in India, but lucky for us, one of the girls on the trip is a writer. I think she’s around Calvin’s age and her family is on a 5 month long mission/service trip. Josh sent me these two blog posts that she wrote about her time at Little Flock. Like Josh said, “I can’t imagine our boys composing anything close to this quality.” We still have high hopes for Camille though. I can’t wait for her to guest post here!

(the two posts are Snake Village and Beyond the Gate)

http://www.tongeserviceventure.com/#!blogspot/conq

The above link currently isn’t connecting (as of Jan 26). I’m hoping they are just moving their blog to a new hosting site and it will be back online soon. It’s worth reading!

This week

In between trying to read through the Bible in 100 days, discovering a new-to-me TV show, and the daily fatigue from getting up early to take Calvin to soccer every morning my writing has taken a big hit. So far I’ve managed to stay on track with the Bible reading (except for the few days that I binge watched Revenge so I skipped Deuteronomy and will catch up on that book later) and am part way through Judges. I’ve read these books before, but not in such big chunks each day. There’s a whole lot of blood and a whole lot of killing of both people and animals. It’s a bit disturbing — especially when entire families are killed for the wrongdoing of the head of the household. My goal this time is just to read through, not study, so I keep plowing on.

Balancing out my holy pursuits is my love for Revenge. In real life it’s in its 4th season, but since I’ve been in a Middle Eastern time warp I only discovered it last week. Ironically my sister was trying to recommend a different show, but I mistakenly started this one instead and love it. It’s about a wealthy family in the Hamptons who uses their money and power to hide all the illegal and unethical actions they take to preserve their wealth and power. In the pilot a woman moves into their neighborhood with the sole intent of entering their exclusive circle and getting revenge on all the people who wronged her when she was a child. At the beginning of the series each episode focused on her plan of revenge for a particular character. It’s also told with a bit of flash forward/flash back so I may find out that someone dies in the first episode, but not how or who did it until many episodes later. Each show unveils more pieces of the puzzle.

As we’ve moved further in, the show has lost some of its cleverness and preciseness and turned into more of a big picture soap opera (a character was even in a coma last night. Thankfully no one has had amnesia yet!) but it’s fun, pretty clean for a TV show for adults, and I love seeing what the writers come up with as they weave a story full of twists and turns. I love when a show is unpredictable.

Alas, I am totally predictable. We went to another rug flop last week and surprise! (or not) came home with another rug. We went just to have a fun night out with friends, but this 40+ year old Qashqai was too pretty to pass up. I saw it and thought it looked like the baby cousin of the rug that I just bought for Josh’s birthday (similar colors and shapes with the little medallions sprinkled throughout) so when he said “Qashqai” I wasn’t surprised. (And quickly raised my hand to snag it before someone else could say they wanted it.)

It was a good price and the cat seems to especially like it — he stretches out and rolls around on it like he owns it. One for the dog, one for the cat, one for me . . .

We are heading into the last week of the semester so a few days ago Camille and I went to school to watch Carter perform in his drama final. His class performed several plays for the elementary school kids and any parents who were able to attend. When we arrived in the auditorium Caleb frantically waved and called Camille over to sit with him and his friends. She’s such a lucky girl. 

Carter with the cast of his play: Fractured Fairy Tales’ Little Red Riding Hood. The general story of Red, the grandmother, and the Wolf, but with a comedic twist. Red is an airhead, the Narrator (Carter) interacts with the characters and in the end Red is saved by a prince/woodsman who has to be told which story he is in because he first tries to save Cinderella. The kids all thought the show was very funny. Especially at the climax of the play when the fight scene was set to the song Kung Foo Fighting and all the characters did marshal arts moves in slow motion. 
Carter was expressive, projected well (no microphones in a large room), and seemed very comfortable on stage. It was my favorite play of the 3 that were performed. (of course!)

After he took a bow, he helped set the stage for the next show

and then my sweet boy came and found me in the audience and watched the other two plays with me.  

Also this week Calvin had his first soccer tournament. He made the varsity soccer team (yay!) which means he has practice every morning at 5:45 am (boo!) and had to turn in his varsity basketball uniform (boo!). It wasn’t an easy decision to make, but he will get more playing time as a goalkeeper than he was getting on the basketball team. It’s also his second year on the soccer team and his coach gave him a great opportunity last year based on his potential over the next 2 years so I’m happy to see him moving up in status on the team. He’s still jockeying for the position of starting keeper and working hard for that top spot. 

Front row seats for us behind Calvin’s goal. Their team tied in pool play so Calvin was hoping it would go to penalty kicks, but one of the other teams ended up with more points and moved ahead of them into the finals. 
My mom just arrived and we are having a great time with her and her ukelele. When I was a kid Mom used to play the guitar and sing to us at night before bed, but she hadn’t played in a while. Recently she got back into music and branched out into playing the ukelele so our house has been full of strumming strings as Camille, Caleb, Calvin and Carter all take turns on her instrument and their own. I suspect we’ll be purchasing a few ukeleles soon. 

It’s not easy being me

Camille was invited to a birthday party this past weekend. It was a fabulous, western themed, family event with bouncy inflatables and a live pony. Camille was very excited about seeing the horse, “like Jade!” (her cousin’s horse), but let me know that she didn’t think she would ride it. Oh that poor thing, her brain is working overtime already. 

The excitement about the pony’s arrival was equally matched by an increase in anxiety about possibly riding the horse. See the body language? Arms tucked in across her chest like a shield — I know that move well. 

I also might have invented the “bite my fingers, but keep smiling so no one knows how nervous I am on the inside” move too. I knew she desperately wanted to ride the horse, but was too scared to actually be willing to ride the horse so I pirated some ideas from one of my favorite movies, What About Bob? and we babystepped our way to success.

First, just try on the hat. You don’t have to go near the horse, just try on the hat so I can take a picture for your cousin who rides and wears equestrian gear just like this. Come on, she’ll love it! Please?? For about 5 minutes she treated the hat like it was the carrier of an infectious disease. As if just trying on the helmet would instantly transport her onto the back of the animal. Finally she relented for about 10 seconds. 

After successfully taking the helmet on and off a few times, let’s try the chin strap. Bad idea. Two steps back. 

Abandoning the hat. How about we just pet the horse? Oh, so sweet. Just like Cousin Mia’s horse (but 1/2 the size). 

I said, how about we just sit on the back of the horse for a second and don’t go anywhere? We won’t ride. Just sit in the saddle. I was surprised she agreed. See the tension in her arms and face?
Lucky for me, the man leading the horse didn’t understand my instructions to wait and started walking a few steps with her on the horse. She tensed and froze and I clapped and cheered and yelled, “You’re doing it! You’re riding the horse!”

 When I asked her if she wanted to keep going and she nodded, I quickly slapped the helmet on her head and they were off. Tentative, but doing it. 

Look at that cautious smile. It says, “I’m doing something awesome, but I’m still unsure where this is going.”

On dry land again. She did it!

Earlier at the party she was very reserved and would only go down the slide if I was with her. But she got off the pony and raced up the ladder to the top without a second glance back at me. I love that feeling of relief. The pure joy that comes with wanting to kiss the ground as you step off an airplane is so fantastic. It’s like you just conquered the world. 

And then pony, pony, pony for the rest of the morning. I think she rode him 4 different times. 

No hands Mom!!

I’m king of the world!!!!

She was on a roll so she went by the face painting table. She rarely does that. She’s not a fan of strangers up close to her face. 

By this point the man leading the pony was checked out and chatting away on his cell phone as he guided them around the path. He was probably hoping Camille would give up so he could go sit in the shade and talk in peace. 

When we arrived she didn’t want a bandana or a sherrif’s star, but the thrill of her success spilled over into all parts of the party

even the piƱata

I pray that all of the fears she faces end like this. 

Korean smorgasbord

The other day I was talking to my sister and since it was morning in Bahrain and evening in California she asked, “What are you doing today?” I thought through my mental schedule and replied, “In the afternoon we have a birthday party at the rugby club and this evening we have an Indian wedding reception to go to. What does your Saturday look like?” She said, “Oh, we’re going to a Korean smorgasbord.”

“Really?!” I asked (cause how interesting does that sound?). “No,” she replied dryly. “We are going to baseball tryouts with all of the other white people in Orange County.” When I stopped laughing (and finished wiping the tears from my eyes) I said, “My life really isn’t that exotic.” She quipped back, “You can’t fool me. I read your blog.”

Ok, so maybe it sounds a little exotic. But in real life our life feels pretty ordinary. First of all, getting ready for our formal event included all the ordinary frustrations — like not being able to find shoes or socks. Caleb ended up wearing orange athletic socks with his black hand me down suit and blue tie (Calvin’s castoff from Wendy’s wedding 4 years ago. That suit is still giving back). And of course he didn’t have dress shoes so he wore his least banged up running shoes. I didn’t want to wear heels so I was debating between flats and boots up until the last minute. At 5:40 Josh started yelling at us that we were going to be late. See, totally ordinary!

I pointed out that it was an Indian wedding reception in the Middle East and the odds of that combination being timely was next to zero. I was convinced that we could arrive 45 minutes late and still be one of the first people there, but I zipped up my boots and headed to the car. We got there within 5 minutes of the time on the invite and sure enough, there was one table seated with a large family, another table with 2 couples from our church, the 5 of us, and an entire room full of empty tables. Uh, huh. So much for being late.

45 minutes later it still hadn’t filled in much and I laughed inside when the MC said, “it’s great to see a crowd here with many more on the way. I wonder what is keeping them — the traffic, the weather?” Um, maybe because this entire country runs on inshallah time? The bride and groom hadn’t arrived yet either so it’s not like the latecomers were truly late yet, but the MC did open the buffet line so in this case, it paid to be early.

The bride and groom arrived while we were finishing up dinner. She wore a white dress, just like you’d see in the US and the groom was in a tux. Not exotic at all. It was a very nice, very sweet wedding reception, just like you’d have in the US. Except that the MC, because of his Indian accent, called the groom “Juan” all night because that is how “Vaughn” is pronounced if you’re from India I guess. It was enough to have me giggling all night, especially because Josh kept saying, “yeah Juan” under his breath.

All in all it was a great, ordinary night. The kids were well behaved and good company,

I had an excellent date that made me laugh, good food, and some friends to chat with. 
Entertaining ourselves while waiting for the action to begin (note the empty table behind us)

My triple selfie needs some work

Cheers! with tea

We were missing Carter in our sibling line up.

Meanwhile, Carter was in India, finishing up his time with the kids at the children’s home. I love this picture of him. It shows the compassionate, caring and protective kid that he is. I’m really proud of how he handled himself on this trip, including the flight home by himself. Hopefully, I’ll get some photos from him and Josh and be able to post something about the half of our family that was actually doing exotic things over Christmas break. 

glamping

In Oman we used to go camping all the time. We’d throw tents and sleeping bags on top of the car, grab a few scrap pallets of wood and find a place on the beach to spend the weekend. When we moved to Bahrain we heard that people camped here too, but scoffed when we found out that their version of “camping” was in the middle of the oil fields. Every winter people register to camp, then they pick a spot down south near the oil wells and pipes and they set up temporary homes for the season.
I don’t know if people actually live there full time or if it’s mostly a weekend activity, but it’s definitely not normal tent camping like we think of in the US. There are tents involved, but not the kind from REI. These are Bedouin style tents that house living room furniture, some have temporary bathroom facilities and running water, and lines of people in cars cruise up and down the roads in the area all weekend the way teens used to cruise popular streets on a Friday night, looking for fun. 
We have never gone out “camping” here before, because you either have to set up your own site in the middle of the dirt (yuck) or know someone who has one of the very nice camps so you have access to some of the niceties like generator power and a flush toilet, or you pay a company to host you for the evening so you get the Bahraini camping experience. 
During our last carpet shopping trip Josh was asking one of the sons what camping is actually like out there and the son was sharing how he went as the guest of a government VIP and had to eat until 3 in the morning when he was so full he felt sick (but the man kept offering food, so he had to keep eating. It’s how it’s done.) Then he mentioned that his wife’s cousin had a connection with a very nice camp and they were going to go out one evening soon and we could come as their guests if we wanted to. Yes, we did!
A few days later our friend called Josh and said it was all set up for January 3rd. Of course, Josh was leaving for India on January 2nd. Oh well. I told him I’d take lots of pictures. I really would have preferred him to go with us because I feel a bit naked in this culture when he isn’t around to act as my interpreter, cultural advisor, and male spokesperson, but I knew we were were in good hands. 

We met around 7pm and followed him on the 40 minute drive out to the middle of the desert. There are paved roads the entire way so it’s kind of like camping on the side of the highway. We pulled off the road and under an archway of little white lights. This camp was one of the nice ones. 

There was a large open space in the middle. Large enough for a few of the kids (not my kids, local kids) to do laps on a 4 wheeler. There were also 3 very large tents like the one behind Camille. They offered us tea and Arabic sweets to start the evening. Camille drank at least 5 glasses of tea throughout the night and it would have been more if she hadn’t been so busy playing. (It’s called Karak — a sweetened black tea with milk and cardamom.) 

The open sided tent with carpets on the ground. (Camille with another glass of tea)
The older men sat on the Bahraini benches that lined the edge of the tent. We were early since it was still before 8pm. Many more people came later. Our friend introduced us to the host, who was a relative of his wife. It was a big party of extended family and friends and it was an honor to be included. 

In the center of the camp was a hole where they started a big bonfire. There were also several Bahraini benches set up around the edge of the fire. That’s where I camped out. Behind the fire is a soccer “field” (two goals set up in the dirt), a volleyball court, and a small playground. It was kid paradise. 

For a first course we were given bowls of beans, both garbanzo (chickpeas) and blackeyed peas. They were warm and a bit smokey, with the right amount of acidity.
They were good, but my heart was lost to the taamia — the Egyptian style falafels. (They are made with fava beans instead of chickpeas). Mmm, I love them. Inside the kitchen area they had chicken on a vertical spit for shwarma, marinated beef strips on a grill, and they were baking fresh flatbread the traditional way. The oven looks like a huge metal bowl and the raw dough is slapped on the vertical sides; when it is cooked through it begins to release, but is caught and slapped on my plate, ready to eat.  Yum, no paleo here. 
Our friends who were also invited to attend tonight. We have a bunch of kids!

A group arrived in traditional dress, with traditional instruments to sing and dance. I would have thought it was the kind of thing that they did only for tourists, but I guess it happens when the locals get together too. 

watching the performers next to our friend from the carpet shop

If I were them, I would get tired of going round and round singing the same (??) thing over and over, but they had endurance!

There was a third tent that I peeked inside, but didn’t take any photos. In between watching the dancers and playing soccer, the kids spent plenty of time in the “game tent” playing table tennis, pool and watching whatever was playing on the gigantic TV. Definitely not roughing it. 

practicing writing their names in Arabic in the sand

More food. Endless food. Taamia for Calvin and shwarma for Caleb.

A nearby camp set off fireworks. She loved them. 

The ladies in our camp lit a few of the lanterns that float into the air using heat from the burning flame. They got a few to fly, but a few others burst into flames. 

Two of the lanterns in flight!

Sweaty and worn out from running around on the soccer field. Time to head home. 

joining the long caravan of cars home — the lights are from other camps along the side of the road

Crashing in bed after midnight. The most comfortable way to camp!